In response to "Divorce is immature and selfish"

I came across this blog

http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/2012/02/28/divorce-is-immature-and-selfish-dont-do-it/#respond

after finding the link on Facebook and just had to respond. My blood pressure shot through the roof the further and further I got through this article. Not only is it senseless, but the points are invalid and unfounded.

I believe the writer of this article is bitter after her own divorce, which she says happened 4 years ago. She does not delve into the reasons why, but I think she better open up her mind and think before she writes such an idiotic blog.

Her first point- divorce is a cliché among people in denial. WRONG. If I was in denial, I would still be married to a cheating bastard. Divorce is a very hard thing for people. It is not an easy answer. It is a huge life changing decision and I highly doubt any of these people are in denial.

Her point two is that divorce is nearly always terrible for kids. I really can’t comment to that. I don’t have kids, and am not a product of divorce. But I think that between having parents that fight and hate each other or having divorced parents, I would be a better child if my parents were divorced. Most of my friends come from broken homes and all of them seem pretty well adjusted to me.

Now this one makes me mad, divorce is for dumb people. Really? As a college educated woman I am extremely offended by this. I think it would have been dumber for me to try and stay with a man that had been cheating on me for months and was in love with his mistress than get a divorce. She states that “divorce is for people who can’t think ahead enough to realize that the cost to the kids is so high it’s not worth the benefits the parents get”. Again, I don’t have kids, but come on!

Divorce reflects mental illness. What a truly ignorant statement. No, I am sorry; divorce does not reflect mental illness, but rather, a smart person that got out. Give me a break! Mental illness??

Then her last point divorce is often a career issue. I can help with that. So it just goes to show the whole point of her article is to sell her services. Divorce is not often a career issue. I don’t know where she got these facts are but she is very, very wrong.

Penelope Trunk, here is my message to you. Before you go and write a blog that is absolutely moronic, unfounded, and untrue, do a little research. I was married for 6 years and with the man for 11. My divorce was not the result of a career issue, I was not in denial, I am not dumb, and I am not mentally ill. I know many people that have been divorced and not a single one of them was due to a career issue. Ms. Trunk, you are an idiot, and should keep your mouth shut!

It's Been Too Long

Life gets a little crazy and the next thing you know, it's been almost three months since you've updated your blog!

My life is hectic as usual, but I wouldn't have it any other way! Closing on the refinance of the house, finally getting this divorce finished, taking care of a sick cat, and getting ready to go to Oswego are keeping me pretty busy.

Most of you know, Odis has kidney failure. My sweet, loving, 8 year old kitty is very ill. I am absolutely devastated. He was close to death's door last weekend, but some nursing by Steve and me helped him tremendously! Tomorrow we will get the results of his blood work and a game plan. I pray that he lives another 8 glorious years! I don't know what I would do without his furry body snuggled beside me each night. And who will great me with his cute face at the door EVERY time I come home?

I am counting down the days, hours, minutes, and seconds, till this divorce is through. It has taken so long. Just a small bump in my life and it seems a million light years away. I think I will be financially screwed by it for at least a year, but on the bright side, I've become someone so much better.

And my trip to Oswego is less than a week away! I am SO EXCITED! Not only do I get to have my parents meet the love of my life, but all the siblings will be together! It is going to be fantastic! I can't wait! I just hope everyone loves Steve as much as I do and I can finally get a blessing from them!

Well its time to go! And I didn't forget about my gratefulness project! I am grateful for Odis. For the times he has comforted me when I cried, for his sweet disposition, for the way he makes me laugh and for just being a faithful companion.