Cleaning Out My Closet

There come's a point in most people's lives where you just have had enough of blood sucking, trash talking, negative people in your life! I no longer have time for people that are all about them. I don't have time for people that talk trash about me, I don't have time for negative people. Life is so short. And these types of people obviously have very small and boring lives if they have to resort to this type of behavior.

I decided to make cuts where it is the easiest and less noticeable -- facebook! So I went down my list of "friends". Many of whom I do not consider friends, many who are barely acquaintances. So I deleted people I didn't talk to. Then I deleted people that were negative on facebook and had annoying posts. After cutting off a good 15 people I started to feel a little better. That wasn't so hard.

Then a harder part. Cutting out the blood sucking friend. You know the one that only calls you and asks how you are to cry on your shoulder for hours. You can't get a word in and it just absolutely drains you! Because I don't like confrontation, I had to think hard on how to approach this friend. Drama would ensue if I said I was cutting off our friendship. So I decided to take an easy (read: wussy) way out. Just don't have any contact. When she calls it goes to voicemail. The voicemails are immediately deleted. I have been doing this for a good month now. I was hoping she got the hint, but no such luck yet. I feel sad to end this relationship, but relieved at this same time. I don't feel obligated to speak with her and be her personal therapist for 3 hours!

I lump the trash talking negative people in the same boat. These people I don't necessarily think should be cut out (family members reside among them), but they need to realize that what they are doing is hurting me and our friendship. So from this blog forward, I am going to handle these people differently. The negativity will be met with a positive statement from me. I won't fall into the negative trap. I will tiptoe away from that mess!

Trash talking is a little harder. It happens behind my back and then I hear about it later. And it's oh, so petty. I think with trash talking I have two choices. One to hit it head on, go to the source and address it, or ignore it and let them drown themselves in negative thoughts and evilness.

Cleaning out your closet can be therapeutic!

Gratefulness: I am oh so grateful for my family. They are funny and kind and although we are spread far and wide, we are close as if we lived with eachother.